To The Question:

You are... / Vous êtes...

Here are the answers:

70 are men (59 %)

40 are women (33%)

5 are other than the above (TG, TV) (4 %)

3 didn't want to answer (2 %)

Total of answers 118 (98 %)

(98 % because of rounded figures by the poll service.)

To The Question:

You are... / Vous êtes...

Here are the answers:

75 are Dominant / Top (25%)

149 are Submissive /Bottom (50%)

35 are Switch (11%)

31 are Curious (10%)

3 didn't want to answer (1 %)

Total of answers 293 (97 %)

(97 % because of rounded figures by the poll service.)

BDSM is composed of:

BD = Bondage and discipline

DS = Dominance and Submission

SM = Sadism and Masochism

To The Question:

In BDSM, Y/you like:

Here are the answers:

23 like BD (10%)

43 like DS (18%)

19 like SM (8%)

46 like BD and DS (20%)

12 like DS and SM (5%)

13 like BD and SM (5%)

61 like BD, DS and SM (26%)

10 are Curious (4%)

1 didn't want to answer (0 %)

Total of answers 228 (96 %)

(96 % because of rounded figures by the poll service.)

To The Question:

Y/your BDSM experience has been:

Here are the answers:

56 Online only (16%)

99 Real life only (29%)

124 Online and real life (36%)

62 Just Curious (18%)

Total of answers 341 (99 %)

(99 % because of rounded figures by the poll service.)

To The Question:

The most effective method to correct a subs:

Here are the answers:

173 Corporal Punishment (48%)

33 Sending sub home (9%)

5 Lecturing the submissive (1%)

52 Denial of previleges (14%)

87 All of the above (24%)

4 None of the above (others) (1%)

5 No opinions on this subject (1%)

Total of answers 359 (98 %)

(98 % because of rounded figures by the poll service.)

To The Question:

What is Y/your best source for BDSM information:

Here are the answers:

13 Books (4%)

219 internet (81%)

27 Friends, mentors (10%)

4 Others (1%)

5 I don't need information (1%)

Total of answers 268 (97 %)

(97 % because of rounded figures by the poll service.)

To The Question:

What is Y/your favourite way to dress for a scene?

Here are the answers:

59 Leather (18%)

44 Latex (13%)

8 Lycra/spandex (2%)

9 Pvc (2%)

47 Lingerie (14%)

4 Street clothes (1%)

26 Anything in black (7%)

86 In the nude/No clothing (26%)

32 I don't care what I wear (9%)

12 Other (3%)

Total of answers 327 (95 %)

(95 % because of rounded figures by the poll service.)

To The Question:

What type os scene do you like?

Here are the answers:

86 I only play privately (my bedroom) (41%)

5 I only play publicly (public party and dungeon) (2%)

78 I love both, private and public play (38%)

36 I am just curious (17%)

Total of answers 205 (98 %)

(98 % because of rounded figures by the poll service.)

To The Question:

In a BDSM scene, for you sex is:

Here are the answers:

28 BDSM is not sex, no sex play in a scene (8%)

75 like a bit of sex in a scene (oral for instance) (23%)

195 BDSM and sex go together (full intercourse) (61%)

17 Just curious, no opinion (5%)

Total of answers 315 (97 %)

(97 % because of rounded figures by the poll service.)

To The Question:

What type of relationship do you have in BDSM?

Here are the answers:

36 I have only casual partners, no relationship (8%)

47 I play repeatedly with a small group of people (11%)

223 I only play with one person (exlusive relationship) (54%)

46 other(not in this list) (11%)

60 No opinion, just curious (14%)

Total of answers 412 (98 %)

(98 % because of rounded figures by the poll service.)

To The Question:

For you, how important is it for your partner to have experience in BDSM?

Here are the answers:

39 It is NOT important at all (10%)

70 It depends of the type of experience (online or real) (19%)

60 It is of average importance (16%)

146 Is is very important (41%)

40 No opinion, just curious (11%)

Total of answers 355 (97 %)

(97 % because of rounded figures by the poll service.)

To The Question:

What is the frequency of your BDSM scening?

Here are the answers:

59 Many scenes per week (16%)

53 One scene a week (14%)

71 A couple of scenes per month (19%)

30 One scene a month (8%)

63 A couple of scenes per year (17%)

8 One scene a year (2%)

14 One scene every few years (4%)

74 No opinion, just curious (20%)

Total of answers 372 (100 %)

(rounded figures by the poll service.)

To The Question:

Why are you interested in BDSM?

Here are the answers:

26 Because it is underground dark and mysterious (5%)

115 It satisfied my need of kinky sex (23%)

279 I love this type of relationship based on power exchanged (56%)

43 Others (9%)

37 Just curious, no opinion (7%)

Total of answers 500 (100 %)

(rounded figures by the poll service.)

To The Question:

Your BDSM is....?

Here are the answers:

216 Very secret and nobody's business (46%)

164 Only a select few people know about my BDSM. (35%)

53 Many know about it. I don't advertise it, but I don't hide it. (11%)

12 I want all the world to know about my love of BDSM. (3%)

28 Just curious, no opinion (6%)

Total of answers 473 (101 %)

(101 % because of rounded figures by the poll service.)

To The Question:

Who, between men and women, you think answer the most to personal ads?

Here are the answers:

360 Men (64%)

98 Women. (17%)

66 Both equally. (12%)

39 Just curious, no opinion (7%)

Total of answers 563 (100 %)

To The Question:

BDSM is for you....:

Here are the answers:

424 A kinky sex game. (48%)

326 A lifestyle. (37%)

89 Just curious. (10%)

34 other. (4%)

3 No opinion (1%)

Total of answers 876 (100 %)

To The Question:

Do you live with your BDSM partner?

Here are the answers:

233 I don't have a BDSM partner. (37%)

158 Yes, I live with my BDSM partner. (25%)

144 No, I don't live with my BSM partner (23%)

77 Just curious. (12%)

13 Other (2%)

Total of answers 625 (99 %)

(99 % because of rounded figures by the poll service.)

To The Question:

De you feel that you are part of a BDSM/Fetish community?

Here are the answers:

95 Yes I belong to a community. (16%)

256 No, I don't belong to a community. (44%)

79 Is there a community? (14%)

19 No opinion, don't know (3%)

131 Just curious (23%)

Total of answers 580 (100 %)

To The Question:

To know more about the people who visit us, for the question "you are a?" please use the answer that you think is best to describe yourself

Here are the answers:

41 Female Domme. (4%)

165 Female submissive. (17%)

31 Female switch. (3%)

6 Female, but I don't know what I am BDSM wise. (1%)

28 Female curious. (3%)

141 Male Dom. (14%)

331 Male submissive. (34%)

89 Male switch. (9%)

23 Male, but I don't know what I am BDSM wise. (2%)

59 Male curious. (6%)

3 TS / TG Dom(me) (0%)

32 TS / TG submissive. (3%)

7 TS / TG switch. (1%)

5 TS, / TG but I don't know what I am BDSM wise. (1%)

8 TS / TG curious. (1%)

4 others. (0%)

9 Don't want to answer. (1%)

Total of answers 982 (100 %)

To The Question:

Do you beleive that a 24/7 DS relationship based on the BDSM philosphy is possible?

Here are the answers:

326 Yes, it is! . (54%)

130 No, it is not possible! . (21%)

137 I don't know. (23%)

13 Others. (2%)

Total of answers 606 (100 %)

To The Question:

Are you looking for a BDSM long term relationship or are you looking for a BDSM short relationship (one night stand)?

Here are the answers:

380 A long terme relationship. (63%)

85 A short term relationship (one night's stand) . (14%)

34 No BDSM relationship . (6%)

25 Other. (4%)

81 Just curious. (13%)

Total of answers 605 (100 %)

Comment from the visitors:

- I hope its perminant. .......MCNTK

To The Question:

In your BDSM activities, do you use any type of breath control (as a Dom(me) or a sub)

Here are the answers:

65 Yes, all the time . (12%)

143 Sometimes . (26%)

126 No, but interested . (23%)

211 Never. (38%)

15 Other. (2%)

Total of answers 560 (101 %)

(101 % because of rounded figures by the poll service.)

Comment from the visitors:

- Bonjour à tous

Le contrôle de la respiraton fait toujours partie intégrante de plusisuers de nos jeux. Il faut parcontre avoir un désir et plaisir pour jouer avec ce genre de discipline. De plus le contrôle de la respiration doit être soutenu et doté d'une grande connaissance de l'autre , de soi même et d'une sécurité absolu lors de ce jeu.......Maîtresse Zyra

- i used to do breathe control...and then i thought "well, IF something did accidentally go wrong, i wouldn't want to spend the rest of my life in jail for it, and there really is no way to be truly safe with breathe control" *if you are going to, please learn cpr and only do it with someone you TRUST and have been with a long while.......chicka

To The Question:

Do you think that people in BDSM are serious about their BDSM?

Here are the answers:

91 Most people are serious . (18%)

310 It is half and half, some are some not . (42%)

74 Most people are not serious . (15%)

80 BDSM is a game, get a life!. (16%)

18 No opinion. (4%)

28 Just curious. (5%)

Total of answers 501 (100 %)

Comment from the visitors:

-Well, #1 comment:the site is wonderful: variety, depth and attractiveness #2 Re: Serious or not: whether someone is serious fully or halfway, there are always gradations in any category, so why not put a rating scale on the site like: acale from 1-5 or 1-10, and then ask the question. It w as a pleasure to read the site.

Kay

To The Question:

In your bdsm relationships, do you prefer the Dominant to be:?

Here are the answers:

204 Older than the submissive . (35%)

65 Younger than the submissive . (11%)

103 Close to the same age . (18%)

129 Any age, it doesn't matter. (22%)

31 I am a switch, it does not apply. (5%)

45 I have no opinion, just curious. (8%)

Total of answers 577 (99 %)

(99 % because of rounded figures by the poll service.)

Comment from the visitors:

-Je ne comprends pas en quoi le fait d'être switch ne s'applique pas? Même en étant switch, si l'âge compte, automatiquement on cherchera soit un Maître(sse) soit un soumis(e) d'un certain âge... Enfin ce n'est que mon avis... (Etant jeune et switch moi-même j'ai des recherches différentes de soumis que de Maître...) Tatiana

-absolutely fabulous. You definitely Zeigerwhatsernamed me! Will definitely check out your site.

To The Question:

Just for our stats, in what age group are you?

Here are the answers:

147 age 18-25. (23%)

90 age 26-32. (14%)

98 age 33-39. (15%)

105 age 40-46. (16%)

84 age 47-52. (13%)

66 age 53-60. (10%)

39 age 61-68. (6%)

10 age 69 and more. (2%)

6 Don't want to say. (1%)

Total of answers 645 (100 %)

To The Question:

Do you think that people lie about their years of experience in BDSM?

Here are the answers:

50 I lie and I think most lie. (10%)

197 I don't lie and I think most don't lie. (38%)

20 I lie but I think most don't lie . (4%)

125 I don't lie but I think most lie. (24%)

131 Just curious, no opinion. (25%)

Total of answers 523 (101 %)

(101 % because of rounded figures by the poll service.)

To The Question:

Why do you think, people quit the BDSM lifestyle?

Here are the answers:

21 Done it all, seen it all, bored . (6%)

14 Too much politics (4%)

44 People in the lifestyle not serious enough (12%)

70 Bad experience in BDSM (19%)

157 Not finding partners. (42%)

33 Others reasons not listed here (9%)

39 Just curious (11%)

Total of answers 378 (103 %)

(103 % because of rounded figures by the poll service.)

Comment from people:

- Sometimes bdsm is an escape goat ... when it is not needed they leave BDSM

- bonjour SM, pour le sondage mon point de vue est: suite à une expérience SM avec une domina, dont elle m'a appris la transformation mais le manque de contrôle d'autorité, je me suis lassé...et suis resté ami avec cette femme ! mais, l'experience m'a marqué et m'excite encore dans mes pensées ! aussi, je pense que,si le SM n'est pas dans la peau de chacun des deux, ca ne peut marché...une chose est certaine, je me retrouve face à une domina, elle devra etre forte et persuasive, sinon elle sera ma soumise dévoué !! bises SM et que ce monde s'ouvre plus

To The Question:

According to your own belief, what sentence discribe your own BDSM philosophy ?

Here are the answers:

289 The submissive GIVES freely his(her) submission to the Dominant. (48%)

66 The Dominant TAKES the submission of the submissive (11%)

222 A bit of both; the submissive give while the Dominant take the submission (37%)

3 I don't know. (0%)

26 Just curious. (4%)

Total of answers 606 (100 %)

To The Question:

Do you believe that a BDSM relationship between partners should be based on love ?

Here are the answers:

331 Absolutely. (64%)

97 No, the submissive is just a thing. (19%)

35 other opinion. (7%)

15 Don't know. (3%)

41 Curious. (8%)

Total of answers 519 (101 %)

(101 % because of rounded figures by the poll service.)

Comment from the visitors:

- La relation doit être basée sur l'amour dans l'idéal. Si c'est impossible (partenaire introuvable), on peut accepter une relation basée sur la confiance et la recherche séparée de commander et d'être commandé, avec douleur associée.

Toute autre relation sans amour ni confiance n'a pas de sens pour moi

- On peut être amoureux réciproquement et vivre également une relation bdsm à partir du moment où les 2 prennent leur plaisir et vivent leurs phantasmes et envies, mais phantasmes et envies réciproques d'une relation bdsm sont largement suffisants pour vivre cette relation et se faire plaisir : soyons simplement épicuriens !!

- moi je suis une soumise et j'adore

- i dont believe love is necesary for all, but for me and my Dom, love is a huge part of our D/s lifestyle. question for you: My Mister and i have been on a search for a collar and lead that is PRETTY non leather, non leather look a like. something that looks more like jewelry. we have searched and searched and cant find one. if you know of anything i would love to know :)

To The Question:

How do you decide the type of BDSM scene you do?

Here are the answers:

137 I use my imagination.(28%)

38 I use stories taken from the internet.(8%)

101 I use my erotic fantasies. (21%)

37 Spur of the moment, no preparation at all. (8%)

83 I decide after discussion with my partner (17%)

40 I have a detailed programe for my submissive. (8%)

19 I always have difficulties to decide. (4%)

6 Other. (1%)

30 Curious. (6%)

Total of answers 491 (101 %)

(101 % because of rounded figures by the poll service.)

Comment from the visitors:

- (pervers & vicieux) de-nature :je décide SOUVENT ! sur le moment : et je trouve SOUVENT facilement d'autres (aussi) vicieu(ses/x) que moi !

- j'ai profité de ma visite de votre site pour répondre à votre sondage. j’ai choisi la réponse "autre" car étant un slave, une fois mes limites "hard" établies, je n'ai aucun contrôle sur la session; le Dominant à une complète liberté sur la direction de la session et je ne discute jamais de la dite session avant qu'elle n'ait eu lieu. je n'en discute avec le Dom que pour Lui faire mon rapport et ainsi Lui part de ce que j'ai ressentit afin qu'Il puisse mieux évaluer le résultat de son travail.

- Étant donné que je suis novice, j'ai toujours de la difficulté à trouver des scènes qui pourront satisfaire mon partenaire. C'est pourquoi j'aimerais être formé. Merci

- as soon as i make plans, they go to shit

- Honestly it's a bit of everything. Sometimes even with a total stranger, you are so in tune to her wants and needs that you just go with it.

To The Question:

How many partner(s) do you have in your BDSM relationship(s)/plays?

Here are the answers:

371=0 partner.(61%)

124=1 partner.(20%)

32=2 partners. (5%)

22=3 partners (3%)

9=4 partners (1%)

5=5 partners. (1%)

5=6 partners. (1%)

0=7 partners. (0%)

1=8 partners. (0%)

0=9 partners. (0%)

3=10 partners. (0%)

13=more than 10 partners. (2%)

0=prefer not to answer. (0%)

22 just curious. (3%)

Total of answers 607 (97 %)

(97 % because of rounded figures by the poll service.)

To The Question:

In a BDSM relationship, do you believe that Total power exchange (TPE) is possible between Dominant and submissive?

Here are the answers:

192=Yes, totaly(45%)

151=Maybe, it depend.(36%)

58=No it's impossible .(13%)

5=No opinion (1%)

1= other. (1%)

18=Just curious (4%)

Total of answers 425 (100 %)

To The Question:

Will medias help to make BDSM become acceptable to people?

Here are the answers:

46=But, ir is already accepted (15%)

133=Probably yes, in a long time.(43%)

41=Yes, soon .(13%)

57=Never (18%)

7= others (sent us a comment) (2%)

24=Curious, no opinions (8%)

Total of answers 308 (99 % because of rounded figures by the poll service.)

Comment from the visitors:

- I think the Fifty Shades of Grey book series and movie has/will have the biggest positive impact on the acceptance of BDSM by mainstream society......Sub-Miss-Ive

- Le feront-ils? Avec la sortie du film 50 shades, ils mettront des images langoureuses, amoureuses, passionnées et fausses (les Doms ne sont pas tous riches aux as) sur une réalité qui est siiiii personnelle à chacun / chacune.
Les incidents malheureux sont amplifiés par les médias...
Mais heureusement, des gens comme Vous et Laurie aident à la mise à jour des informations et à des mises au point! :)......Samy

To The Question:

In which dungeon do you do your BDSM scenes?

Here are the answers:

86=We have our own dungeon. (26%)

11=We use a friend's dungeon .(3%)

19=We rent a dungeon. (6%)

35=We play in public dungeons. (10%)

44= other (sent us a comment). (13%)

139=Curious, no opinions. (41%)

Total of answers 336 (99 % because of rounded figures by the poll service.)

Comment from the visitors:

- I enjoy BDSM but have not engaged in a public venue. I did once at a home that had a full dungeon. I perform certain acts while masturbating. Unfortunately, since I am attracted to Black men, I have found that very few partake in a public venue. I have been on FetLife for more than 7 years and have not found a "true" Dom/Master with experienc, especially in the cerebral side.

- Nous avons aménagé deux pièces dans notre grande maison. Une pièce au grenier et l'autre pièce à la cave.

- My Mistress and I do our BDSM scenes anywhere in the house, we have plenty items to play : not specially necessary to play in a donjon. Weather permitting, we often go outside : forests.

- Nous rêvons d'avoir un jour notre propre donjon, mais pour l'instant nous pratiquons à la maison ou dans des donjons loués ou chez des amis et bien évidemment en plein air.

- Hi, either in an hotel room or at my place

- domination en extérieur sur des lieux déserts (anciens batiments) ou chez moi dans des pièces vides